daily reminder: you’re beautiful ♡
such a lady, a rose to indicate a lady will b next in line…. I 😍 it
Saw this documentary on #darkskin girls……will they ever show the girls that have always loved their skin? Is it that hard to believe that I’ve always loved the color of my skin. Is it also hard to believe I never OWNed a white doll, never played with nor wanted one. Damn, does every black girl have to have some kind of issue with their skin? I get tired of defending why I love my skin and why I never fed into the bullshit light vs dark. Was I the only girl that played with black Barbie? If you let @oprah #own tell it, I feel like I was. It’s annoying. All these folks that tan to look like me but yet I’m supposed to feel some type of way cuz I was born this way…have a seat
"If women are raised being told by parents, teachers, media, peers, and all surrounding social strata that:
-Another post about rape | Fugitivus (via brutereason)
it is not okay to set solid and distinct boundaries and reinforce them immediately and dramatically when crossed (“mean bitch”)
it is not okay to appear distraught or emotional (“crazy bitch”)
it is not okay to make personal decisions that the adults or other peers in your life do not agree with, and it is not okay to refuse to explain those decisions to others (“stuck-up bitch”)
it is not okay to refuse to agree with somebody, over and over and over again (“angry bitch”)
it is not okay to have (or express) conflicted, fluid, or experimental feelings about yourself, your body, your sexuality, your desires, and your needs (“bitch got daddy issues”)
it is not okay to use your physical strength (if you have it) to set physical boundaries (“dyke bitch”)
it is not okay to raise your voice (“shrill bitch”)
it is not okay to completely and utterly shut down somebody who obviously likes you (“mean dyke/frigid bitch”)
If we teach women that there are only certain ways they may acceptably behave, we should not be surprised when they behave in those ways.
And we should not be surprised when they behave these ways during attempted or completed rapes.
Women who are taught not to speak up too loudly or too forcefully or too adamantly or too demandingly are not going to shout “NO” at the top of their goddamn lungs just because some guy is getting uncomfortably close.
Women who are taught not to keep arguing are not going to keep saying “NO.”
Women who are taught that their needs and desires are not to be trusted, are fickle and wrong and are not to be interpreted by the woman herself, are not going to know how to argue with “but you liked kissing, I just thought…”
Women who are taught that physical confrontations make them look crazy will not start hitting, kicking, and screaming until it’s too late, if they do at all.
Women who are taught that a display of their emotional state will have them labeled hysterical and crazy (which is how their perception of events will be discounted) will not be willing to run from a room disheveled and screaming and crying.
Women who are taught that certain established boundaries are frowned upon as too rigid and unnecessary are going to find themselves in situations that move further faster before they realize that their first impression was right, and they are in a dangerous room with a dangerous person.
Women who are taught that refusing to flirt back results in an immediately hostile environment will continue to unwillingly and unhappily flirt with somebody who is invading their space and giving them creep alerts."
when ur mom starts yelling at u to do something only 2 find out u already did that shit!
African elephants, Botswana | image by Chris Packham